In the Mind of Madness

April 7, 2008

Domestic Violence

Filed under: Abuse — taintedgoth1 @ 8:21 pm

Domestic violence is something that I believe too many people like to ignore. There are so many men and women out there who are victimized every day by their significant others–people who don’t deserve the wrath of an abuser.

My story is similar to many victims out there. I meet a very charming and loving guy. He seems to be perfect and then things change. In my case it was a man who was constantly overbearing and over affectionate. Then it turned into situations where he was stalking me online and preventing me from having friendships with others that he wasn’t friends with. Even after I left he continued the stalking. He was always nice as pie to my face but behind my back he was malicious and vindictive.

I suffer from the effects of what he did to me, a sufferer of post-traumatic stress disorder and I currently am afflicted with agoraphobia. He had sent people after me online…people I was once friends with but who would rather believe his lies than believe the truth. I even felt the need to leave many forums online just to protect myself from him. I’m sure many people are hurt that I had to cut them off, but I need to protect myself.

Domestic violence hasn’t only touched my life. My brother has been victim to this awful form of abuse, but his has been much more severe. He had been with a woman who beat on him all the time, accused him of horrible crimes, infidelity, and anything else she could think of. He finally fled from her and is staying with us here. He had to file a protecton from abuse (PFA) order against his ex because of her repeated threats on our family and him. She had been calling over 20 times a day (12 hour period) and it was to where we couldn’t answer the phone at all. We are grateful for the PFA, as it saves us from further threats.

It’s sad with my brother’s case because there are no resources in place for male victims of domestic violence in this area. No shelters at all. If only people would realize that women weren’t the only victims of this type of abuse.

Domestic violence isn’t something that only women are victims of. It affects many men as well. I think we need to realize this and open our eyes to the terrible truths about this form of abuse.